Many people think grief should look like constant sadness. But grief actually has two natural rhythms (this is called the Dual Process Model): Loss mode — crying, remembering, longing, emotional pain Restoration mode — doing tasks, distractions, small moments of relief We move back and forth between these two. Not in order. Not on a schedule. And here’s the important part: When you find yourself in restoration mode, you might feel guilty. But that lighter moment is not betrayal. It’s your nervou